Dr Simone Grey (@drsimonegrey) is a self-described counselling psychologist and nutritionist who creates long-form TikTok discussions about attachment, defensiveness, self-silencing, eating disorders and gender. She says her aim is to make academic psychology “accessible” without dumbing it down and to create community rather than “farm for clients.” Her recurring visual format places her in a mustard-yellow armchair beside a microphone, plants and a framed “HUMANISM” poster; her explanations frequently combine schema therapy, nervous-system language and personal disclosure.
Contents
- 1. Psychology and relationship content
- 2. Eating, embodiment and trauma
- 3. Gender and structural analysis
- 4. Communication style
- 5. Community orientation
- 6. References
Psychology and relationship content
Grey repeatedly examines defensiveness, shame, attachment, self-silencing and overfunctioning. She describes defensiveness as a barrier to mutual understanding, distinguishes guilt—“I did a bad thing”—from shame—“I am a bad person”—and advises viewers to ask what another person’s repeated behaviour is doing to their own body and sense of self.
Evidence
- “You cannot be understood by somebody who is walled off to understanding.”
- “Guilt says I did a bad thing, shame says I am a bad person.”
- “Stop asking what you can do about their behavior. Ask what their behavior is doing to you.”
Eating, embodiment and trauma
Her eating-disorder material combines nutrition, attachment and embodiment. She advocates establishing regular meal structure during recovery, discusses appetite and nervous-system regulation, and relates her own history of disordered eating and exercise addiction. She also rejects single-rule diets that eliminate an entire macronutrient without a diagnosed clinical reason.
Evidence
- “The first thing I would establish…is structure.”
- “I used to be addicted to exercise when I had an eating disorder.”
- “If a nutritionist or a PT is trying to sell you a magic diet that cuts out an entire macronutrient, run.”
Gender and structural analysis
Grey identifies as a feminist therapist and places individual distress within gendered and political systems. Her videos discuss women’s self-silencing, men’s learned disconnection from vulnerability, intersectional feminism, the historical scold’s bridle and her critique of “high value” dating language as a ranking of human beings.
Evidence
- “I am a feminist therapist.”
- “Women are assigned the interior, and men are assigned the exterior.”
- “Value is comparative, but dignity is not.”
Communication style
Grey’s style can be inferred as conversational, candid and theory-dense. She says she prefers unscripted videos, leaves in moments where she catches herself overinterpreting another person, and mixes references to Winnicott, bell hooks, Terry Real and schema therapy with informal phrases such as “flesh bags of emotion.”
Evidence
- “I like to do this unscripted.”
- “That’s it. Right there in the room, live, that’s overfunctioning.”
- “We’re flesh bags of emotion.”
Community orientation
A community-minded educational motive can be inferred from her stated wish to translate inaccessible academic language, welcome disagreement respectfully and offer psychology beyond client recruitment. Her gratitude for reaching nearly 5,000 followers after eight weeks also frames the account as a developing public forum rather than a polished institutional channel.
Evidence
- “Make it accessible…not dumbed down, just accessible.”
- “Respectfully…celebrate difference, different ideas, different takes.”
- “This is my way of contributing to creating something like a community.”
Known for
- Explaining attachment, defensiveness and relational conflict
- Connecting eating disorders with embodiment, appetite and trauma
- Feminist analysis of gender, self-silencing and emotional labour
- Long-form direct-to-camera talks from a mustard-yellow armchair
Likely traits
- Candid and self-disclosing educator
- Community-oriented communicator
- Skeptical of reductive diagnostic and wellness language
- Comfortable combining clinical theory with political analysis
References
- TikTok video 7654964599883681056, “A quick thanks and intro”
- TikTok video 7655399024815541537, “How to deal with a defensive other”
- TikTok video 7663124525281840416, “Borderline personality disorder or BPD and what this diagnosis means”
- TikTok video 7672449713102196000, “Stop asking what you can do about their behaviour”
- TikTok video 7518014212967386390, “A lil 101 on why we need intersectional feminism”